un pensamiento para ti...
"He aprendido que todo el mundo quiere vivir en la cima de la montaña, sin saber que la verdadera felicidad está en la forma de subir la escarpada. He aprendido que cuando un recién nacido aprieta con su pequeño puño, por vez primera, el dedo de su padre, lo tiene atrapado para siempre. He aprendido que un hombre sólo tiene derecho a mirar a otro hacia abajo, cuando ha de ayudarle a levantarse..."
~ Gabriel Garcia Marquez
Alas, I wanted to forget the whole thing but it was dug up again. I'm getting fatter, more stressed, and uglier physically and emotionally. Last thing I want is something like this. Should I join in the battle?
Guess I already have one foot in so no point in struggling to turn back. One of them was just so harsh with her words, like we're the ones who're the complete assholes in the entire incident - stupid ingrates who deserve to be condemned straight to hell for even thinking that way. Too harsh. So I hit back. I tried to hold my blows, but I think still turned out pretty harsh at the end.
This is tiring.
"...all relationships need that touch of sensitivity, tact and consideration" was what someone wrote. How true. Pity when friendships last for that long already, this is all thrown into oblivion. One forgets that friends are also beings with feelings, wants, needs and passion.
S.H.E-天灰
如果你不再出现 我的世界 还有什么可贵
可惜不够时间 让我们试验 什么叫永远
想念变成怀念 心动变成心碎
偏偏还会关切 你最後属於谁
我的天空今天有点灰
我的心是个落叶的季节
我不知道如何度过今夜
所有的灯 早已经全都熄灭
如果你从没出现 我会不会 觉得快乐一些
可惜残忍时间 总要把诺言 一点点摧毁
想念变成怀念 心动变成心碎
偏偏还会关切 你最後属於谁
我的天空今天有点灰
我的心是个落叶的季节
我不知道如何度过今夜
所有的灯 早已经全都熄灭
我的天空今天有点灰
我的心是个落叶的季节
我不知道如何度过今夜
所有的灯 早已经全都熄灭
我的天空今天有点灰
我的心是个落叶的季节
我不知道如何度过今夜
所有的灯 早已经全都熄灭
4 comments:
Geez Pearl, what happened? Sounds like you've just been through a terrible ordeal with your good friend.
Stay calm and think back. Was the comment meant as just a joke turned bad? Were you or your friend having a bad day?
I just went through "Harrassment Training" a week ago. One thing I learnt was that a simple harmless conversation between "best" friends can sometimes turn into a hurting conversion. The speaker said that there are days when she can take a comment like "your gaining some weight" from a very good friend but other days this same comment might just stab her really deep.
Hope you can get over this.
Geez Pearl, what happened? Sounds like you've just been through a terrible ordeal with your good friend.
Stay calm and think back. Was the comment meant as just a joke turned bad? Were you or your friend having a bad day?
I just went through "Harrassment Training" a week ago. One thing I learnt was that a simple harmless conversation between "best" friends can sometimes turn into a hurting conversion. The speaker said that there are days when she can take a comment like "your gaining some weight" from a very good friend but other days this same comment might just stab her really deep.
Hope you can get over this.
One wonder why must we be the one to be the punching bag and take it all whilst we are tolerant to that person causing us misery? Someone so called friend.
You're right, tact is important. But if you have been friends with someone for so long, tact is in the end appreciated but not a must, when the jerk is that friend of yours.
Pearl, whatever the cause of the argument, whoever won, in the end everybody is a loser. But sometimes, maybe sometimes some friends aren't worth having. You should surround yourself with people who will be honest with you, who will pull you back when you're heading towards disaster, who will give you a hand when you call, who will take your criticisms, and ready to bite back if you step over the line, so as to tell you "hey! We're equals ok?". If that friend of yours start to make you feel bad about yourself when it is not your fault and you're not in denial being at fault, someone who could blame you and expect you to take all the blame and yet take none for herself or even accept responsibility, perhaps Pearl it is time to seek new friends. I believe one must surround oneself with people worth being friends with. It is not arrogance thinking highly or even too highly of oneself but maybe sometimes we must up our expectations.
Why let her bully you? Bite back I say and if she doesn't appreciate honesty in the face of tyranny, Pearl, take my advice, she ain't worth your time at all.
Unless if you course you hit her. Now ladies, ladies, we're gentle ladies, well bred and well educated. Hold that punches of yours. Words in my opinion sting more and definitely linger longer. Use words.
Sigh... it's a long long story, and it kinda involves more than 1 person. It's like some kind of group against group thing, where these 2 groups used to be a clique.
Of course I didn't literally 'hit' back. I hit back with words.
But well, 8 years of frienship is not easy to just let go like that. Sigh...
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