un pensamiento para ti...
"He aprendido que todo el mundo quiere vivir en la cima de la montaña, sin saber que la verdadera felicidad está en la forma de subir la escarpada. He aprendido que cuando un recién nacido aprieta con su pequeño puño, por vez primera, el dedo de su padre, lo tiene atrapado para siempre. He aprendido que un hombre sólo tiene derecho a mirar a otro hacia abajo, cuando ha de ayudarle a levantarse..."
~ Gabriel Garcia Marquez
There are just some days you feel like you're in the dumps. This is one of those.
Lots of things happening at the job, not targetted at me personally but I just couldn't help but think, "What have I done? Was I right in doing this? What should I do?"
I guess it's guilt that I may not have done enough or that I may have been wrong all this while thus creating such a situation. I mean, at the end of the day, it is the family left to deal with the situation, not me. The family is already frustrated. Now even with my intervention, they are still frustrated. Imagine the frustration. Doubled, even tripled.
Counsellors or psychologists should try to distance themselves emotionally from the client, not be too emotionally drawn into these things in order to help more people with their own emotions. I understand this, and think I've been handling myself fairly well. But today, these incidents coupled with other blows at work, have really taken me down.
I'll recover, though the guilt will still be there. Watched the last 2 episodes of Alone in Love and crie my guts out with the pain the main characters were feeling. A form of release, I guess. Then again, guilt will still be there.
How else can I help? I feel so inadequate professionally.
Scary to hear that from a counsellor, huh?
3 comments:
Pearl, you're a counsellor, not a problem fixer. Your job and duty is to counsel, the rest is for the other person to absorb and to find out. What more can you other than guide and gently steer? But if the steering wheel is not in your hands, you can give all the directions to the right path but if the driver refuses to listen, there is only so much you can do. Don't get yourself into a state of depression anymore over problems that are not yours to fix. If that person can't handle his/her own life, and that is his/her life, what more can a bystander can you do save for snatching away the gun if that person intends to kill himself?
Don't be so hard on yourself. The guilt will always be there, whether you did enough or gave good advice but you must lift away from that. There are other people who needs your positive vibe and help. Move on and I hope you stop feeling so much in the dumps.
Sigh... Well, it's just not easy lor.
Btw, Funn, I seem to have difficulties entering your site these days. The page stops loading after the background appears a number of times I tried to enter.
I'm having the same problem, in IE. I am changing the looks anyway. Firefox is ok so far, but the new layout firefox will be a problem. Do try entering again. Let it load.
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